In my office just now I noticed a guy carrying in a box of stuff (folders of documentation it looked like) for one of the girls. Just for a little perspective, the girl works in Document Control and the guy is an Engineer, so the paperwork is in no way his responsibility, it's her job to organise and file it all. My question is this: is it sexist for him to carry the box of stuff for her? I understand that if she were a frail old lady then you'd obvoiusly help her carry stuff, just like I'd help a frail old man carry something that looked heavy or cumbersome. By the same token, if it were a scrawny, tiny little woman - or a tiny little man - who was obviously struggling with the box then again it's common decency to help them out. If it's a two-man (or woman) job to carry something, offering to help is once again just common decency. But would you say it's sexist to automatically want to carry something for a girl who can pretty clearly carry it herself? I can't decide if I think it's an Alpha Male tendancy, men wanting to carry the heaviest thing to feel like the manliest man, or if i think it's a man pitying the poor little woman who shouldn't be doing the man-job of carrying shit because women should be cleaning the stuff that men flex their muscles carrying. Or maybe it's neither of those two and it's a subconscious sexual thing - the guy just wants to be nice to the girl because guys are nice to girls because guys fancy girls... xx xx